Make yourself a warm drink and take a moment to stop. Really stop. If you can, find somewhere comfortable to sit. Look out of the window and take in the light, the colours and the trees. Autumn has arrived. The mornings feel a little cooler, the evenings are drawing in, and the leaves are beginning […]
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September is Suicide Prevention Awareness Month – a time to talk about suicide, to listen without judgement, and to remind one another that asking for help is not a sign of weakness. September also feels particularly significant to me because Major Trauma Awareness Week takes place from 14–22 September. The campaign by the Day One Trauma
PTSD Awareness Month reminds us that trauma isn’t only about what happened. It’s also about what the body remembers and the grief we continue to carry long after the event itself has passed. Have you ever reacted to something and immediately thought: “Why am I so upset about this?” Maybe it was a comment, a
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Father’s Day grief is not always about death. Sometimes it arrives quietly. Not as something dramatic or clearly defined – but as a feeling that settles in your body when the world begins to talk about fathers, and something inside you shifts. Maybe it’s a sadness you can’t quite explain. Maybe it’s a heaviness that
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I want to speak directly to you. Have you ever found yourself sitting in a room, forgetting why you walked in? Or rereading the same sentence over and over again because your mind just won’t hold it? Have you noticed yourself feeling slower, foggier, more forgetful since your loss? If that sounds familiar, I want you to
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Mother’s Day can be especially painful when you’re grieving. A gentle reflection for anyone experiencing grief when the world moves on. Mother’s Day can be a beautiful day for some – and a deeply painful one for others. As someone who has lost my mum, I know this personally. If you are experiencing grief while
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Identity loss after grief or trauma can leave you feeling disconnected from who you used to be. It doesn’t happen all at once – it unfolds quietly, in the space between who you were and who you’re becoming. A few days from now, it will be my mum’s 14th heaveniversary. Fourteen years since everything changed.
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I want to speak directly to you: How often have you found yourself quietly comparing your pain to someone else’s? How often have you thought, “It’s not that bad. Others have it worse”? If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone. This is exactly what people mean by the Grief Olympics – the invisible competition where
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In a previous post, I wrote about ambiguous loss – a type of loss that lacks closure. The kind that leaves you asking, Is this over? Or am I still waiting? It happens when someone is physically here but psychologically gone. Or physically gone but still deeply present in your mind. But there’s another layer
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Grief is often described in stages – denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross first introduced the Stages of Grief while working with terminally ill patients, but if you’ve ever grieved anything deeply, you already know this truth: Grief rarely follows a set order. Have you noticed how it never fits neatly into the boxes
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