Mother’s Day can be especially painful when you’re grieving. A gentle reflection for anyone experiencing grief when the world moves on. Mother’s Day can be a beautiful day for some – and a deeply painful one for others. As someone who has lost my mum, I know this personally. If you are experiencing grief while […]
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Identity loss after grief or trauma can leave you feeling disconnected from who you used to be. It doesn’t happen all at once – it unfolds quietly, in the space between who you were and who you’re becoming. A few days from now, it will be my mum’s 14th heaveniversary. Fourteen years since everything changed.
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I want to speak directly to you: How often have you found yourself quietly comparing your pain to someone else’s? How often have you thought, “It’s not that bad. Others have it worse”? If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone. This is exactly what people mean by the Grief Olympics – the invisible competition where
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In a previous post, I wrote about ambiguous loss – a type of loss that lacks closure. The kind that leaves you asking, Is this over? Or am I still waiting? It happens when someone is physically here but psychologically gone. Or physically gone but still deeply present in your mind. But there’s another layer
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Grief is often described in stages – denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross first introduced the Stages of Grief while working with terminally ill patients, but if you’ve ever grieved anything deeply, you already know this truth: Grief rarely follows a set order. Have you noticed how it never fits neatly into the boxes
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If you’ve recently been feeling emotionally overwhelmed and can’t quite explain why, I want to offer a gentle possibility: could you be experiencing cumulative grief from multiple losses? When loss happens time and again – without enough time, space, or support to fully process each one – grief doesn’t disappear. It accumulates. And over time, that
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As we step into a new year, it’s easy to feel pressure to make big plans, set bold goals, and completely reinvent ourselves. Yet over time, I’ve learned that meaningful change rarely comes from dramatic resolutions. Instead, it grows from small, daily intentions. These quieter intentions for the new year – simple, intentional choices we
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Christmas can stir up a thousand emotions — gratitude, joy, nostalgia — but also deep sorrow for what has changed. If this Christmas feels quieter, heavier, or lonelier, or if you find Christmas hard when grieving, please know this: you’re not alone. I understand, I’ve been there, too. I remember my first Christmas without my
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“No one warned me that surviving my accident would mean grieving a life that never actually ended, rather an ambiguous loss, lingering quietly beneath the surface.” My traumaversary Today marks my fifth traumaversary – five years since the accident that changed my life in a split second. Five years ago, I was hit by a
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Have you ever thought that perhaps grief doesn’t wait for the final goodbye? What if it starts quietly, long before the ending – in those moments when we sense that change, loss, or death is coming? Let me introduce you to a term you might know, even if you didn’t know its name: anticipatory grief. Most
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