Identity loss after grief or trauma can leave you feeling disconnected from who you used to be. It doesn’t happen all at once – it unfolds quietly, in the space between who you were and who you’re becoming. A few days from now, it will be my mum’s 14th heaveniversary. Fourteen years since everything changed. […]
Identity Loss: What if You’re Not Lost, Just Becoming? Read More »
In a previous post, I wrote about ambiguous loss – a type of loss that lacks closure. The kind that leaves you asking, Is this over? Or am I still waiting? It happens when someone is physically here but psychologically gone. Or physically gone but still deeply present in your mind. But there’s another layer
Disenfranchised Grief: What if Your Pain Has a Name? Read More »
If you’ve recently been feeling emotionally overwhelmed and can’t quite explain why, I want to offer a gentle possibility: could you be experiencing cumulative grief from multiple losses? When loss happens time and again – without enough time, space, or support to fully process each one – grief doesn’t disappear. It accumulates. And over time, that
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Christmas can stir up a thousand emotions — gratitude, joy, nostalgia — but also deep sorrow for what has changed. If this Christmas feels quieter, heavier, or lonelier, or if you find Christmas hard when grieving, please know this: you’re not alone. I understand, I’ve been there, too. I remember my first Christmas without my
When Christmas Feels Hard: A Gentle Guide for Grieving Hearts Read More »
“No one warned me that surviving my accident would mean grieving a life that never actually ended, rather an ambiguous loss, lingering quietly beneath the surface.” My traumaversary Today marks my fifth traumaversary – five years since the accident that changed my life in a split second. Five years ago, I was hit by a
What if You’re Grieving What’s Still Here? Understanding Ambiguous Loss Read More »
Have you ever thought that perhaps grief doesn’t wait for the final goodbye? What if it starts quietly, long before the ending – in those moments when we sense that change, loss, or death is coming? Let me introduce you to a term you might know, even if you didn’t know its name: anticipatory grief. Most
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